Charisma on Command - The Day My Charisma Advice Failed Me
The speaker recounts a challenging interview experience on a major platform, where he made several charisma-related mistakes. Despite being well-prepared by the interview team, he struggled with nerves and failed to articulate his usual clear message. He attributes this to a lack of preparation and being caught between old habits and a new approach to charisma. The speaker identifies specific mistakes, such as poor posture and nervous gestures, which hindered his performance. He emphasizes the importance of preparation and being present in the moment, rather than relying solely on learned techniques. The speaker also reflects on the phases of learning, suggesting that after mastering the rules, one must eventually let go and be authentic. He acknowledges the anxiety this transition can cause but sees it as a necessary step towards genuine charisma. The interview, although challenging, was salvaged through editing, and he received positive feedback. He encourages others to balance learning with authenticity and to embrace moments of genuine connection.
Key Points:
- Preparation is crucial for effective communication.
- Being present and authentic enhances charisma.
- Learn the rules, then let go to be genuine.
- Poor posture and nervous gestures can undermine confidence.
- Balance learned techniques with authentic expression.
Details:
1. 😟 The Worst Interview Experience
- The interview is described as the worst from a charisma perspective, indicating significant personal reflection on how it was conducted.
- It took place on the largest platform ever for the speaker, reaching millions of viewers, highlighting the importance of the event.
- The speaker intends to share insights into what went wrong and potential improvements, aiming to provide valuable learning experiences for others.
- The goal is to help others avoid making the same mistakes, suggesting a focus on actionable advice and strategic improvements.
2. 📸 Charisma Mistakes in Photos
- Photos from an interview revealed widespread charisma mistakes, indicating a need for better presentation skills.
- Common mistakes include lack of eye contact, poor posture, and unengaging facial expressions.
- To improve, focus on maintaining direct eye contact with the camera, adopting a confident and open posture, and practicing engaging facial expressions.
- These adjustments can significantly enhance the perception of charisma in photos, leading to better personal and professional impressions.
3. 🎤 Pre-Interview Jitters
- The speaker was invited by the Diary of the CEO team to participate in an interview in Los Angeles, highlighting the professionalism and thoroughness of the team.
- The team organized a rare pre-interview call to discuss topics and logistics, showing a commitment to preparation and quality.
- Despite the professional setup, the speaker experienced difficulty in preparing mentally, likening the feeling to a child avoiding homework.
- The speaker reviewed old videos to prepare for potential questions but felt uncomfortable throughout the process.
- Upon arrival at the studio, the speaker encountered a professional 10-camera setup and a welcoming team, which helped alleviate pre-interview nerves.
- A 15-minute chat with the host before the interview commenced served as an effective way to settle nerves.
- The speaker employed specific strategies to manage pre-interview anxiety, such as deep breathing exercises and positive visualization, which were crucial in shifting from a state of discomfort to confidence.
4. 🗣️ Stumbling Over Words
- The individual, despite having a clear explanation of their role as helping people 'turn on their Charisma and confidence in moments that matter', often struggles with succinctly communicating this, leading to verbose explanations during interviews.
- Initial interview recordings are often rambling and unstructured, taking 10 to 15 minutes to convey their point, which is later refined by the editing team to appear polished.
- The individual acknowledges that live interviews would likely result in disengaged audiences due to their uninteresting and confused delivery.
- Reflecting on their performance, the individual admitted that watching their interviews is challenging and described the experience as a 'crash', indicating a need for improvement in communication skills.
- There is a recognition of the gap between their expertise in teaching Charisma and their personal communication struggles, highlighting an area for potential personal development and strategy adjustment.
5. 🤦♂️ Analyzing Mistakes
- Crossed arms occasionally occurred but are forgivable mistakes.
- Hands on the face are egregious and often stem from nervousness.
- Recurring mistake of hand on the face noted in almost every photo.
- Poor posture, such as collapsing, hampers deep breathing and calmness.
- Collapsed posture results in a lack of grounding and present-moment connection, affecting coherent responses.
- Posture issues hinder engagement with content, despite prior familiarity.
6. 📺 Final Interview Outcome
- The interview was initially 3 hours and 45 minutes but was edited down to 2 hours and 10 minutes, resulting in an hour and a half cut.
- The final product was satisfactory, capturing genuine connections due to a 10-camera setup that allowed for smooth editing, mitigating potential live TV issues.
- Reflections post-interview highlight a lack of charisma and command during the interview, questioning why personal advice wasn't followed, such as using big gestures, removing hand from face, and speaking clearly and confidently.
- Emphasis on having clear answers to anticipated questions is highlighted as a core principle taught in Charisma University.
- Specific challenges faced included maintaining energy and engagement throughout the interview, as well as handling unexpected questions effectively.
- The use of a 10-camera setup was particularly effective in capturing multiple angles and ensuring a dynamic presentation, which is a recommended strategy for similar high-pressure environments.
- It was noted that preparation should also include rehearsing potential questions and responses to ensure a smooth delivery and minimize pauses or filler words.
7. 🌀 Reflecting on Learning Phases
- Recognizing learning phases, initially learning rules before breaking them, as experienced over 10-15 years with Charisma on Command.
- The process involves first emulating and adding behaviors, such as how to move hands, make eye contact, and tell stories.
- There is a phase where one stops adding and begins to subtract, letting go of learned behaviors to speak from the heart.
- Struggles with transitioning from old, effective methods to a more genuine, present style, causing anxiety, especially on camera.
- Importance of acknowledging different stages of learning, from acquiring skills and rules to letting go and being authentic.
- Expresses gratitude for the anxiety and challenges faced, noting positive reactions and support received after sharing personal struggles.
8. 💡 Embracing Authenticity
- Let go of past teachings to allow more authentic conversations and interactions.
- Avoid always striving for self-improvement in every interaction; embrace moments of simply 'being.'
- Embracing authenticity can lead to more connected and meaningful interactions.