TEDx Talks - Fare e Aspettare | Jasmine Abd El Gelil | TEDxESE Milan
The speaker contrasts the verbs 'fare' (to do) and 'aspettare' (to wait), emphasizing the importance of taking action rather than waiting for perfect conditions. They share personal experiences, including starting a TikTok channel during an Erasmus exchange, which led to unexpected opportunities. The speaker argues that waiting for perfection often hinders progress and that taking action, even imperfectly, is crucial. They recount the story of musicians Max Pezzali and Mauro Repetto, who succeeded by persistently sharing their music despite initial imperfections. The speaker encourages embracing imperfections and learning from failures, as these are part of the journey towards achieving dreams.
Key Points:
- Action is crucial; don't wait for perfect conditions.
- Perfectionism can hinder progress; start with what you have.
- Success often begins with small, imperfect steps.
- Persistence and patience are key in achieving goals.
- Embrace failures as learning opportunities.
Details:
1. 🎵 Introduction: A Tale of Two Verbs
- The segment introduces two key concepts: 'doing' (fare) and 'waiting' (aspettare).
- These concepts are explored in terms of their impact on productivity and decision-making.
- 'Doing' (fare) is associated with taking action and making progress, which can lead to increased productivity and goal achievement.
- 'Waiting' (aspettare) involves patience and strategic timing, which can enhance decision-making quality by allowing more information to be gathered before acting.
- Balancing 'doing' and 'waiting' is crucial for optimal outcomes, as excessive focus on one can lead to missed opportunities or rushed decisions.
- Examples of 'doing' might include starting a new project or pursuing a business opportunity, while 'waiting' could involve holding off on a decision until market conditions improve.
2. 🔍 The Essence of 'Fare' and 'Aspettare'
2.1. Understanding 'Fare'
2.2. Exploring 'Aspettare'
3. 🎬 Animated Dreams Vs. Real Life
- Animated films often depict protagonists receiving immediate opportunities that lead directly to their goals, creating an unrealistic portrayal of success.
- In real life, achieving desires typically involves waiting and longing, rather than instantaneous fulfillment.
- The process of dreaming in animation involves materializing a project or goal in one's mind, while real-life desires require patience and persistence.
- This contrast highlights the gap between the idealized narratives in animated films and real-life experiences, where success is rarely immediate or guaranteed.
4. 🌟 The Trap of Perfectionism
- Perfectionism often hinders progress by creating unrealistic expectations and fear of failure.
- Individuals may abandon dreams, deeming them unattainable due to the pressure of achieving perfection.
- Recognizing and starting small can lead to improvement, emphasizing action over perfection.
- Examples of perfectionism include spending excessive time on minor details and avoiding tasks due to fear of imperfection.
- Practical strategies to overcome perfectionism include setting realistic goals, embracing mistakes as learning opportunities, and prioritizing progress over perfection.
5. 🔄 The Path to Real Success
5.1. Understanding Success and Societal Pressures
5.2. The Reality Behind Success Stories
6. 🚀 Breaking Free from Perfectionism
- A dream in today's society is likened to a 'glitch,' an alteration that can lead to self-awareness, an idea, and eventually innovation, all originating from an individual willing to change their story.
- The speaker chose to change their life in April 2022 by posting a video on TikTok during an Erasmus stay in France, which went viral despite not having a perfect setup or career in place.
- The video simply stated the speaker's name, age, and dream of becoming a TV host, illustrating that action can turn dreams into reality even in the absence of perfect conditions.
- The speaker realized that the hardest part of achieving a dream is taking action towards it, as perfectionism often hinders action due to waiting for the 'right' conditions.
- Posting more videos led to the realization that the speaker was already living their dream by actively pursuing it, highlighting the importance of starting with available resources.
7. 🎤 My Journey to Action
7.1. Engagement and Learning
7.2. Initiative and Networking
7.3. Overcoming Challenges
8. 🏁 Persistence and Passion: The Keys to Progress
- Persistence is key: The story highlights that success often comes from persistence, as shown by Mauro Repetto and Max Spezzali, who distributed many imperfect demo tapes before achieving recognition.
- Action over Perfection: Starting with imperfect products, like demo tapes, can still lead to success. The emphasis is on taking action rather than waiting for perfection.
- Strategic Patience: Combining action with patience is crucial. The process involves creating and waiting for the right opportunity, similar to planting seeds and waiting for them to grow.
- Opportunities require pursuit: Opportunities don't appear out of nowhere; they must be actively pursued and chased, even if it means facing setbacks.
- Learning from mistakes: The narrative underlines the importance of learning from failures. Each stumble is an opportunity to learn and improve the pursuit of dreams.
- Ongoing Pursuit: The speaker is still on the journey towards their dream, emphasizing that the path is not perfect, but it is a beginning. The journey itself is valuable.