The Holistic Psychologist - The 4 step process in finding yourself
The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-discovery, noting that many people, even into their 70s, don't truly know themselves due to societal and familial pressures to suppress their authentic selves. The process of self-discovery involves asking oneself four key questions: identifying personal values, recognizing what excites them, understanding their unique skills, and finding where they feel at peace. By exploring these areas, individuals can align their lives with their true values and passions, leading to more fulfilling and confident lives. The speaker encourages patience and regular practice in this journey, suggesting journaling and reflection as tools to aid in this process.
Key Points:
- Identify personal values to guide life decisions.
- Recognize what excites you to discover passions.
- Understand unique skills by observing natural talents.
- Find peace by noticing when you feel most at ease.
- Regularly practice self-reflection to deepen self-awareness.
Details:
1. 🌟 Discovering Who You Are
- A significant number of individuals aged 30-70 lack a clear understanding of their true selves due to upbringing in suppressive environments.
- Self-discovery is crucial for building better relationships, enhancing fulfillment, and boosting confidence.
- Effective self-discovery involves consistent effort and patience, requiring individuals to engage in reflective practices and seek authentic experiences.
- Adopting personal reflection, journaling, and seeking feedback from trusted peers are practical methods to aid in understanding one's identity.
2. 🌟 Embracing Your Unique Traits
- Recognizing and embracing unique traits and passions is crucial for personal growth and self-awareness.
- It's important to acknowledge the existence of unique traits even if they are not immediately apparent.
- Reconnecting with oneself can be achieved through introspection, self-discovery processes, and engaging in activities that naturally draw interest.
- Practical steps for embracing unique traits include journaling, seeking feedback from others, and exploring new hobbies or interests.
- Emphasize the importance of self-acceptance and confidence in leveraging these traits for personal and professional development.
3. 🔍 Four-Step Process for Self-Discovery
- 1. Identify core values: Determine what principles are most important to you, such as honesty, integrity, and kindness. This will guide your decisions and actions.
- 2. Recognize personal strengths: Take note of your skills and talents to leverage them in your personal and professional life.
- 3. Understand emotional triggers: Identify events or circumstances that provoke strong emotional reactions to manage them better.
- 4. Set personal goals: Establish clear, achievable objectives to strive towards, fostering a sense of purpose and direction.
4. 📜 Understanding Your Values
- Values are a crucial part of individual identity and guide us in discovering our purpose.
- Begin by journaling or writing down what is most important to you to identify your personal values.
- Common values could include family time, freedom of choice, cooking at home, travel, solitude, or social connections.
- It's normal to struggle initially when identifying personal values, especially if unaccustomed to self-reflection.
- Reflecting on values is essential as many inherited values may not align with personal beliefs.
- Understanding personal values aids in making decisions aligned with one's true self rather than external expectations.
- Example: Prioritizing family time may lead to declining social invitations or career advancements that interfere with family commitments.
5. 🎈 Finding Excitement and Passion
- Reflect on childhood experiences where excitement was dismissed to understand limitations in expressing enthusiasm.
- Recognize excitement as an important indicator of interests and passions.
- When you notice excitement or interest in something, follow that impulse to explore it further.
- Consider excitement as a pathway to discovering true passions.
- For the next 30 days, actively notice what captures your excitement and take small steps to pursue those interests.
6. 🎨 Identifying Unique Skills
- Focus on recognizing what you're naturally drawn to and excel at over the next 30 days.
- Seek feedback from close friends and family to help identify unique personal skills.
- Encourage discussions around strengths rather than weaknesses to foster development.
- Shift the focus from self-criticism to self-awareness and appreciation of personal capabilities.
7. 🧘♀️ Finding Peace and True Self
- Identify moments of peace: Regularly ask yourself where you find peace and be mindful of your body's and mind's responses when you feel at ease.
- Recognize peaceful activities and environments: Take note of specific activities or environments that promote calmness, such as enjoying a morning coffee, visiting the park, or spending time alone.
- Plan and prioritize peaceful activities: Intentionally allocate time in your schedule for activities that consistently bring you peace, ensuring it becomes a regular part of your life.
- Reflect, document, and expand: Dedicate time to reflect on these peaceful moments, document your insights, and explore new activities or environments that could enhance your sense of peace and self-discovery.